#713819 - 10/28/11 09:45 PM
Re: Question for anyone in a relationship...
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Poodle Smolt
Registered: 05/03/01
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Loc: McCleary, WA
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You gotta keep your pimp hand strong. This. Truth: Over the last 4 years I pretty much gave up my life working on our property and building our house. I have continued to be busy working side jobs for money (with skills I picked up in the last 4 years) so money isn't an issue, time is. I have a stack of kitchen passes so tall, it has a flashing red light on top to warn the planes flying by. I make sure I set time to spend with the wife, first and foremost. The boys (our sons) are our first priority, but I make sure she feels confident in our relationship everyday. I make sure she has her time to spend with friends, and I encourage her to do so. She does roller derby, so she gets lots of "her" time. Need a black eye? Talk back to my wife, the probation officer. No, really, that is what she does. Whenever you return from a fishing trip, thank them for "letting" you go (mind fuk 'em), and make sure you are in a good mood. They will realize that "letting" you go fishing works out for them as well. In truth, it is all about creating an honest relationship and reasonable expectations. You need to fish & hunt, as that is what makes you "you". A relationship will require some moderation at times.
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#713820 - 10/28/11 09:46 PM
Re: Question for anyone in a relationship...
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redhook
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tell her, if you cant fish, you better start working your jaw muscles out... bet that attitude changes rather quickly...
PS, thank me later, you could have a potential gold mine on your hands...
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#713826 - 10/28/11 10:04 PM
Re: Question for anyone in a relationship...
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Hahahaha haha ha
Registered: 04/07/07
Posts: 1870
Loc: Silverdale WA
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im lucky my hubby likes to fish...but we did split up and i dated other guys that fished, just they didnt fish enough or i should say they didnt want to spend every day they had off fishing...to me and you may call me needy, i need to have a partner that fishes...not just fishes but wants to fish as much as i do...god forbid when we get old enough to not be able to fish as much..i just hope by then we will have life in common... ill be frank when i say this but the other key to a good realitionship in my eyes and i may be a minority here but as long as she is getting enough in the bedroom that should keep her happy...cause if your getting enough you stop bitching...or at least i do sex and fishing...thats the ticket give her enough and she will be silly slapped and want a break
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#713828 - 10/28/11 10:07 PM
Re: Question for anyone in a relationship...
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Dah Rivah Stinkah Pink Mastah
Registered: 08/23/06
Posts: 6206
Loc: zipper
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It has to start BEFORE the relationship evolves into being serious. Either you'll understand that or you won't. Yeah that, gave my gf of 12 years a pair of waders the first Christmas together. Told her that fishing is what I do and she can either come with or see ya when I get home. Never in 12 years had any problems fishing as much as I want, and sometimes it's a lot. when they want to spend every second of your free time with you, then it gets tough! Start having to plan fishing weeks in advance. Maybe I should take the ring back She wants to spend every second of free time with you but not go fishing? Ring?? thinking with the wrong head if you want to go fishing. 13 years ago I left my ex who threw a fit if I wanted to fish, "this is what I get after five years?" Sayonara!
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#713832 - 10/28/11 10:13 PM
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Returning Adult
Registered: 09/20/01
Posts: 379
Loc: Seattle
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As someone else said the key is to set expectations early.
My best advice to new husbands is if you don't plan on going all out for things like birthdays, anniversaries, valetines days etc. for the rest of your life don't do it the first year. Once you start you're stuck, because if you ever stop they'll take it as an insult. (I'm not saying be a total slacker, but I see guys going way overboard the first year and I'm like man you are setting youself up for a world of hurt a couple years down the line)
Same concept goes for fishing, if you want to go fishing every weekend in the fall you should have been doing while you were still dating. That way she can't come back with "remember when you used to spend every weekend with me" when you ask to go fishing.
Going of 14 years, have two kids and I still fish at least once a week from June though April.
Wife gets her girl nights out and girls weekends and I get my fishing trips. If you want to last you both need you separate activities and equal oppurtunity to do them without bitching from either side.
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#713839 - 10/28/11 10:22 PM
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Hahahaha haha ha
Registered: 04/07/07
Posts: 1870
Loc: Silverdale WA
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hahahha...if i got it every day i would never bitch...but my hubby controls the c@ck and he keeps it that way...hahahah
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#713840 - 10/28/11 10:23 PM
Re: Question for anyone in a relationship...
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redhook
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sounds like hes screwing up... best way to shut em up, its to fill em up, every single day... dont go taking that to the bank tho, some of you old farts might break a hip!!
Edited by redhook (10/28/11 10:24 PM)
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#713867 - 10/28/11 11:12 PM
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Returning Adult
Registered: 12/14/09
Posts: 300
Loc: WA
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Relationships like this will eat your soul. She needs a hobby of her own and some friends. Sign her up for a book club or something.
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#713889 - 10/29/11 01:04 AM
Re: Question for anyone in a relationship...
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Parr
Registered: 10/08/11
Posts: 41
Loc: SW Washington
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Celebrating 13 years next Friday. Wife fishes (and hunts). When she goes with me, especially this time of year, I take her to places with fishing shacks and we plunk. To get out on my own, I make sure I have done enough "Honey Do's" so there's no reason for her to say no. I also try to schedule my trips around her work schedule (if she's at work I might as well be fishin'). Probably the most important, when I say I'm goin' fishin', I GO fishin' (not to a bar or buddy's house). And try to be home when you say you will (unless the fish are biting and they she understands). Good luck. Thats why I switched my schedule to 4 10's. Wednesdays off Those damn "Honey dos". Just gotta suck it up! I work 4/10's too! Friday is my "free" day (fishin' every chance I can). Weekends is for us. Either riding the bike (unless it's 40 below and raining), fishin' together or sometimes, doing what she wants.
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#713890 - 10/29/11 01:11 AM
Re: Question for anyone in a relationship...
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Repeat Spawner
Registered: 03/06/01
Posts: 1189
Loc: Gig Harbor, WA
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this whole thread should be deleted,
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#713891 - 10/29/11 01:13 AM
Re: Question for anyone in a relationship...
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Spawner
Registered: 08/30/10
Posts: 656
Loc: Grays Harbor
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If she doesn't like to go fishing and doesn't like you to go fishing staying with her means you will not have a moment of peace regardless. You feel like your tied down because you can't fish if oyu don't or she will make your life miserable if you do fish.
Best said by a friends uncle's plaque: We interupt this wedding for fishing season.
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#713897 - 10/29/11 01:56 AM
Re: Question for anyone in a relationship...
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Repeat Spawner
Registered: 08/04/99
Posts: 1431
Loc: Olympia, WA
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If she complains about your fishing, go hunting. If she complains about your hunting, take up golf. If she complains about that, go drinking with your friends. Keep moving, and sleep with one eye open. She will never get your balls! Married 47 years and still learning...
to keep my mouth shut and do what I'm told. hahahah
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#713905 - 10/29/11 02:35 AM
Re: Question for anyone in a relationship...
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Ornamental Rice Bowl
Registered: 11/24/03
Posts: 12616
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Is her name Mark? You owe me a shot of Lagavulin, Coley! Damn.... still trying to lick it off the monitor!
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#713906 - 10/29/11 02:36 AM
Re: Question for anyone in a relationship...
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Ornamental Rice Bowl
Registered: 11/24/03
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As for the Closer...
Dude, you're screwed!
Take it from someone who knows.
Cut yer losses while yer ahead.
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#713907 - 10/29/11 02:43 AM
Re: Question for anyone in a relationship...
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River Nutrients
Registered: 03/15/99
Posts: 4166
Loc: Poulsbo, WA,USA
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Just tell her you're going fishing and if she complains tell her she's lucky you don't hunt. If that doesn't work give her your credit card and tell her to go shopping.
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#713908 - 10/29/11 02:59 AM
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Spawner
Registered: 10/18/04
Posts: 502
Loc: Whatcom
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Some guys get away with murder, while others are hen pecked to death. Not sure why that is. I do like Redhooks approach about her jaw muscle excercises If fishing is you passion, then she needs to respect that. Chances are that it will NOT get better with time. If your not happy, TELL HER. If she's not willing to change then........ thats a decision only you can make Either way good luck!!!
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#713912 - 10/29/11 03:30 AM
Re: Question for anyone in a relationship...
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Ranger Danger
Registered: 02/08/07
Posts: 3076
Loc: AK
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I am surprised at all of the"cut your losses" advise and negativity. Who is to say this isn't an easily corrected issue and that a little work can't result in a better relationship in the end?
No freaking wonder we are at an all time low in marriage success rate. When the going gets tough...bail?
Work on it dude. If you both truly care about the relationship and each other, you'll find a compromise. If you don't, you'll reach an impasse and either hate each other for the rest of your lives or call it quits...like 60 odd percent of folks that say "I do" these days.
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#713916 - 10/29/11 06:44 AM
Re: Question for anyone in a relationship...
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Returning Adult
Registered: 12/24/07
Posts: 383
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You gotta choose the right woman. The reason why most marriages end in divorce is because a bunch of bed wetting pussies let woman have too many rights. In fact more rights than a man. Back in the 50's you could smack the hell out of your woman and no one would say a thing, (I'm not saying it was right) but now if you even yell at your old lady and the cops come 9 out of 10 times your going to jail. Do what you want but I would seriously reconsider your relationship with this gal. Marriage these days isn't meant to benefit the man and besides It's not like her pussy is lined with velvet. Woman are fungible go find a new one.
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