Been married 35 years.
The first year she said you can't go fishing, we got in a fight and I dispersed to the OP for a week, no one could find me. When I got home she was pissed so I re-packed and said I will be back in a few days.
She started the whole "you don't love me" thing, hell we were young.
That is when I told her that I got married to Fvck not fight and if all she wants to do is fight then I am going fishing.
34 years later she asks where I am fishing and do I need anything before I go! We never fight at all so that only leaves one thing to do, even after 35 years!

Been married 35 years.
The first year she said you can't go fishing, we got in a fight and I dispersed to the OP for a week, no one could find me. When I got home she was pissed so I re-packed and said I will be back in a few days.
She started the whole "you don't love me" thing, hell we were young.
That is when I told her that I got married to Fvck not fight and if all she wants to do is fight then I am going fishing.
34 years later she asks where I am fishing and do I need anything before I go! We never fight at all so that only leaves one thing to do, even after 35 years!
And the best thing---She helped me buy the lodge in Alaska and helps with marketing and I go up 4 times a summer...without her.
Can't beat that after 35 years.

Dude. atleast get her a real rod (before someone else does )

Going on 27 years and 2 kids in college and we have an agreement, I do what I want, she does what she wants and if there is something that one of us thinks is important we do it together, no questions asked. We have both learned to make sure the important things are really important to us and will be important to the other person.

1st scenario, balls in a vise. Oh honey, I love you so much, here's a $10,000 ring to prove it, now what kind of wine do I get for the bunco party? I'm losing weight but this gluten free thing might be ok, as long as you still like it, lover. Even though it quit raining yesterday and the river's green, that fishing thing can wait I really don't want to miss Sex and the City.

2nd scenario, mutual respect. Honey, I'm going fishing tomorrow. And there's good tides so next three days I'll be home after dark, have fun at bunco. Wife, have fun, call if you're going to be real late. remember, we have plans for Thanksgiving.

Listen to your Aunty, best advice yet. Just bounce and have a fishing weekend to yourself. Believe me you will pay to use that little cabin in bc one way or another. Sounds like she is to into herself/drama.

A person can spend WAY too much of their life "working on it".....example.......how many couples do you know who have had a temporary separation to "work on it" and then reconciled? I know of only a couple of instances......and their relationships today are only "so-so".

Young folks deserve a chance to find out for themselves.....(no sh!t, Sherlock.....like they would listen, anyway ) Feel free to piss away as much of your life as you wish.......after all, it's your life.

Good Luck.....seriously

Ok, that made me laugh.

Some of the fishing trips do resemble a group therapy meeting....

If she can't feel ok without constant attention from you your world will continue to shrink.

You kill me, Andy.

Well I dont really have the problem when it comes to fishing. My wife likes to fish/camp as much as I do and is usually jealous that I get to fish more than her (she works every other weekend). So when I plan fishing trips with the boys I try to do so on the weekends she works. If she is off and I plan on fishing it is just a given she is going unless she says she is not. Hell the new Intruder we got in June was her idea.
We argue sometimes about differences in our schedules or difference in our plans/priorities. Sometimes I give in (if I feel it is important and I was just being an ass) but sometimes we argue over stupid [censored]. I tell her life is to short to argue over stupid [censored] and that I didnt marry her because I was unhappy being single and then I go do what I had planned. When I return she may still be alittle upset but usually had enough time to realize that the situation was stupid and then we move on.

I just put on the kevlar vest and run for the door...



Or...I just "let" Sue out fish me every weekend or at least catch more fish than me...and she paid for 1/2 the Db...

I'd never hook up with a woman that restricted my freedom.
It just makes my skin crawl to hear of wives that won't "let" their husbands hunt, fish or hang mounts on the walls.

Sure some family functions are necessary to keep the peace, but the control put forth by some of these high maintenance bitches is way more than I can handle.

My wife grew up in a hunting & fishing family and understands my illness.

Run for your life.

You better run......I see where she's aiming........and it ain't to kill.....

Its like going to the horse track. Some guys go and pick winners, others go and constantly pick the old nag who costs them money. The key to success is research and knowledge.

And every once in a while you just get lucky.

Chuck texted me last Friday about hitting the Cowlitz on Sunday and of course I said yes. Later that evening I told the wife that Chuck had asked me to go fishing and she said "You should go". I said " Already said yes". End of discussion. If it isn't that easy, then you picked wrong.

Word to DBA.

You seem more intelligent than the average Cooger.

I read this to my wife. She wants to know what your wife is doing those 4 times of the year during the summer when you are gone .

I'm not an alum.

I've been married for 39 years. I told my wife on our second date that I fished, hunted, sailed and spent time hanging out with some old friends partying. That she would always be invited but regardless, I'm going to do what I'm going to do. She doesn't like to camp, fish in cold weather, gets seasick and has always given me maximum slackage to do what I want because she accepted that as a condition of our relationship.
So, it comes down to whether you want to just cut bait on your relationship or give it one more shot by you both talking to a 3rd party. Whattever you do, do it before kids are part of the picture 'cause it ain't gonna get better until you hit it head on. Every couple has adjustment problems. Staying married to the same person is not easy for a lot of reasons. A basic question to answer - are you better with her or without her? Good luck.

I have only been married 3 1/2 years, but I will add the following:

1. If you are going to go fishing, just tell her that you are going fishing. Whatever you do, DO NOT ASK HER IF YOU CAN GO FISHING!

2. If she objects to you going fishing (remember, you didn't ask, you just told her that you are going) without an honest to God important reason, then just go. No one likes a push over.

2. Do not talk about fishing or your fishing trips when you are spending time with her. That is your time together, and she will want you to be focused having fun with her, not on fishing. An exception to this would be if she, for example, inquires about your most recent fishing trip. In this case, she actually wants to talk about fishing.

4. Know when to go and when to not go fishing. As I am a sure that you have already guessed, this means important holidays and events. Sometimes its best to just attend some of those events even though you would rather not. Especially if your attendance at such an event really means something to her.

5. If you would rather do what you want, when you want, and where you want, then stay single. All you need is just a handful of women who are comfortable with their non-commital relationship with you.

unless of course if your woman suddenly loves to fish and could care less if you are having a good time fishing, she just thinks you are...i never thought of that till just now...i wonder how many times tony didnt feel like fishing but i dragged him...i hope it is not too many times or i would be the worst wife