She had kids and didn’t want anymore. Sucks. We got along so well so rip me apart or give me advice please

Have you tried an Italian beef sammich?

Obviously she didn't think things were as rosie as you did.

I know it sounds callous but get a new one or 3.

JesusChristDan

DW - if you are steadfast on having your own kids, this is going to be best for you in the long run - even though it sucks ballz right now. Been there, done that. My only major advice to you is to NOT drink. You gotta stew in it sober for a while to come out of it a better man later IMO.

Fire up Tinder and go get you some strange...

if she had kids and didnt want any more, and you do, she wasnt right for you in the first place....

find someone who can be your best friend, shares the same interests, including the possibility of children, or whatever else you may want...

now if you are talking about advice on how to get back with her, id advise not doing so, because you still want children, and she doesnt, and if you try to force a chick to do something they dont want to, they will never let you forget it....

if you plan on doing an upgrade, dont do it from a bar... go fishing in a populated area, go to a game, a grocery store, hell maybe even church....

just stay the fvck away from bars....

Solid advice from everyone really. I’ve heard it takes a few months so I’ll try to be strong. Thanks dan for that lol made me laugh. And evo I give you a lot of crap but thanks man I appreciate you.

Bummer. Hang in there, and don't forget about your mistresses (fishing and baseball); you still got them!

Been in those same shoes many times.
Keep your head up and stay busy.
It is never easy, shoot me a PM if you need to talk to someone anytime.
Hang in there.

Pull up a chair and listen to a story Dwat….I married a woman with two kids. I was a good stepfather and we decided to have a child together, so we did. Nine months after he was born, she did a 180 and became a dictator....no more fishing, no more golf, no more anything....if I argued, she would threaten to leave to another state with him. So, I did nothing for five years. Finally couldn't take it anymore, so I divorced her.

She got my house, my boat, my car, $20K up front, $800/mo maintenance and $1,000 a month child support....and it was a shared custody settlement.

Just be thankful you didn't have a child with her....you never know what could have happened....especially if she wasn't all in on the idea.

Snake

No advice for the past, but plenty for the future...

If you have something you want, extract promises on the second date.

No promises, no third date.

That's how you avoid being where you are now.

Fish on...

Todd

As often as I disagree with both Todd and Evo on here I have to say they both gave you some pretty solid advice.

Stay true to what's important to you and realize that the pain of the breakup is temporary but being with the wrong woman is painful forever.

Renting someone's kids ain't nothing like having your own.
I'm sure you loved them and I get that but once you have your own kids it doesn't even compare.

Get confident and get busy............It's opening day.

Make a deposit at a sperm bank?

Find a surrogate wife.

You want advice? Don't date chicks with kids. WTF were you thinking? Find a woman that isn't carting around some other guy's F trophies.

Kids? F that! lol

Hope this helps.......

Okay I’ll be honest. Took a girl home from the bar rough hands and as tall as me. She knows everybody here so I might I have [Bleeeeep!] up

Lotsa' good advice. I disagree with Nick a bit about not drinking. I think self medicating with alcohol is OK, for maybe a month or two. It's just not sustainable as a lifestyle. Be depressed with the depression and then realize it isn't giving you what you want out of life. Figure out what will, and then go after that. Getting laid meanwhile doesn't hurt either.

I'm picturing the scene in River Runs Through It where the bros. see "Old Rawhide" and they say simultaneously- "We've met" and then look at each other...