i would say that from a relationship point of view thats the same way. if you dont make things fun and entertaining at least some of the time...your hosed. Humans love, by nature, unpredictable things. they become obssesive. gambling, fishing, riding. So if you can sneak in a few unpredictable things per month in a relationship....it keeps a little of the mystery up. they love it...enjoy it...and you enjoy doing it for her because you know she will appriciate it. dinners, wine tasting ( plan on taking an exploratory trip this summer, for future...investment ) fishing ( if she likes that kind of thing) biking, gifts...of all sorts. hand made...to some scented candle she commented on in the store last week. those are the best. Something very obscure that she doesnt think you'll ever remember. Find hole in the wall Bistros for the "date night" surprise her with ANYTHING!!